Writing Balance

Balance

Balance (Photo credit: kmakice)

Balance is something I have been struggling with for a while, and this being December, means it is an even more unattainable goal. My blogging will suffer a bit this month. I turn into crafting and baking mode like mad in December. I’ve been crocheting gifts galore. I read a post over on ChantelC’s blog about perseverance tonight, go take a peek. It was interesting and got me to thinking about how my life is a continual battle to persevere. I think one of the biggest part’s of the battle for me is trying to find balance.

It’s a struggle and my life always seems to be in varying states of chaos. Writing, while a source of great joy in my life, has brought it’s own baggage to the balance equation. I have to be careful to balance finding enough time to write with spending time accomplishing other tasks involved in living like cleaning house, being with family, and working enough to pay the bills. Of course, I must also ward off the time vampires called social media and surfing the net(vicious little time consumers).

As if it’s not enough to get better at time management, there must also be balance in sharing enough in writing without sharing too much. I want my writing to speak truth, but reserved. I’m a southern gal, so there are some things I will never quite feel comfortable airing publicly and there are things you honestly just don’t want to know. There is also the people pleasing aspect and not wanting to offend, but I’m realistic enough to know you can’t please everyone and I won’t try to, I will have my say. I just don’t want my voice to come at the expense of others.

Until this year I had been quiet for so much of my life, that discovering the power of writing, was like letting a lion out of it’s cage. I just have to be careful and quiet the lion a little. Sometimes it wants to speak up too much. Those times I have to moderate myself before posting a comment on a blog or posting a facebook comment. I try to balance my need to speak up with compassion for others and being discreet. For example, there are some things about children or spouses, which should not be blogged. I try hard to just put some thoughts to bed in my secret journal.

Sometimes an escape happens. Usually it’s okay as what escapes often winds up a riddle most people would not be able to decipher without knowing more about my life. I just take comfort in the fact the riddles voice truths even if they are missing parts. In case I seem to be speaking in riddles right now, here’s an example of something I posted once : “Whoever said ‘silence is golden’ must never have had their voice squashed so many times.” I was feeling so strongly in the moment and wanted to say something and not silently in my journal either. The obvious truth was there, but I just left out assigning the tell tell details.

What areas do you struggle to find balance in as a writer? Thoughts on truth in writing?…